Marriage and Sex in the World to Come?
© Chris Jacob Schaefer 2009
(All Scripture Quotes from RSTNE 3rd Edition, abridged)
23 The same day came to Him the Tzadukim (Saducees), who say
that there is no resurrection, and asked Him,
24 Saying, Master, Moshe said, If a man dies, having no
children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up
zera (seed) for his brother.
25 Now there were among us seven brothers: and the first,
when he had married a wife, he died and, having no
children, left his wife to his brother:
26 Likewise the second also, and the third, all the way to
27 And last of all, the woman died also.
28 Therefore in the resurrection whose wife shall she be
from the seven? For they all had her as a wife.
29 Yehoshua answered and said to them, You are led astray,
not knowing the Keetvay HaKadosh (Scriptures as a Whole in plural form),
nor the power of YHWH.
30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are
given in marriage, but are as the heavenly angels of
YHWH in the heavens.
31 But as touching the resurrection of the dead, have you
not read that which was spoken to you by Eloah, saying,
32 I am the Eloah of Avraham, and the Eloah of
Yitzchak, and the Eloah of Yaakov? Eloah is not the
Eloah of the dead, but of the living.
Yehoshua answers them precisely according to their question. They asked about in the resurrection. They did not ask about after the resurrection. To verify that they asked the wrong question, Yahushua says their asking only touched the resurrection of the dead.
What can malachim/angels do that we cannot? They can fly. In the resurrection, we fly and apparently fast.
Since they asked about “in the resurrection”, how long does “in the resurrection” last?
Qorintyah Aleph / 1st Corinthians 15:50-55
50 Now this I say, Yisraelite brothers, that flesh and dahm (blood)
cannot inherit the malchut (kingdom) of YHWH;
corruption inherit incorruption.
51 Behold, I show you a sod (hidden mystical level) mystery; We shall not all
die, but we shall all be changed,
52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last
shofar: for the shofar shall sound, and the dead shall be
raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.
53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this
mortal must put on immortality.
54 So when this corruptible shall have put on
incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on
immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that
is written, Death is swallowed up in victory.
55 O death, where is your sting? O Sheol, where is your
A twinkling of an eye. So for a brief moment, in the resurrection, people apparently aren’t married to their current spouses because death and/or resurrection has freed them from their marriage covenants. Qorintyah Aleph 15:52 does not preserve earthly marriage covenants for those who have survived the tribulation. Why? Because the earthly marriage covenants were made between flesh and blood mortals. When a person puts on incorruptibility, that person has become an immortal . What earthly marriage covenants are between immortals? None that I’m aware of—certainly not any Nazarene, Messianic, or Christian.
4 And I saw thrones, and they sat upon them, and the power of judgment
was given to them: and I saw the beings of them that were
for the witness of Yehoshua, and for the word of
and who had not worshipped the beast, or his
image, neither had received his mark upon their
foreheads, or in their hands; and they lived and reigned
with Moshiach a thousand years.
By necessity, for the millennial Kingdom and beyond, people reproduce and therefore need to be married to reproduce. The church has told us that resurrected beings are void of marriage and sex. Sez who? The resurrected human beings live and reign with Moshiach for 1000 years. Are we supposed to believe that the resurrected beings get the short end of the stick and are deprived of hetereosexual marriage, while the pagans of the earth still are granted that privilege and pleasure? Exactly who the resurrected are married to only Yehoshua knows. Since the tzadukim asked the wrong question, we’ll have to wait to find out the answer.
Gilyahna / Revelation 21:23-27
23 And the city had no need of the sun, neither of the
moon, to shine in it: for the glory of YHWH did brighten
it, and the Lamb is the Light of it.
24 And the nations of those that are saved shall walk in
the Light of it: and the kings of the world do bring
their beauty and honor into it.
25 And the gates of it shall not be shut at all by day: for
there shall be no night there.
26 And they shall bring the beauty and honor of the
nations into it.
27 And there shall by no means enter into it anyone that is
unclean, or whoever works abomination,
and or makes up lies:
but only those who are written in the Lamb’s
Scroll of Life.
People cannot be changed into eunuchs, because that would be unacceptable in the presence of YHWH. Certainly people who were made into eunuchs in their mortal bodies will not remain eunuchs in their resurrected, glorified bodies. Additionally, what blessing is it for a collective bride to be rendered eternally sterile? If all believers are collectively the bride of Moshiach, then they must be blessed with the capacity to reproduce.
20 There shall be no more there an infant of just a few
days, nor an old man that has not filled his days: for the
child shall die a hundred years old; but the sinner being a
hundred years old shall be cursed.
21 And they shall build houses, and inhabit them; and
they shall plant vineyards, and eat the fruit of them.
22 They shall not build, and another inhabit; they shall
not plant, and another eat: for as the days of an eytz (tree) so
are the days of My people, and My chosen people shall
outlive the work of their hands.
23 They shall not labor in vain, NOR CONCEIVE CHILDREN FOR
TROUBLE; for they are the SEED blessed of YHWH, and THEIR
OFFSPRING remains with them.
In v 21, it tells of the labor that the saved will perform (building, planting), then in v. 23, it says that that labor will not be in vain like when others take away. Likewise when it says “nor conceive children for trouble…” That doesn’t mean that they won’t conceive children; the rest of the verse explains that they are blessed seed and their OFFSPRING remains with them. Their offspring (children of conception) will not die. In order to have children, there has to be sex (and of course the kadosh pattern of sex in Scripture is heterosexual marriage.)
How about a second Tanakh witness? OK.
Yechezkel/Ezekiel 47:13-14, 21-23 (chapter 47 describes the land that will be given to the Yisraelite saints in the millenium)
13 This says the Master YHWH; “This shall be the border, by
which you shall inherit the land according to the twelve
tribes of Yisrael: Yoseph shall have two portions.
14 And you shall inherit it, one as well as another:
concerning which I lifted up My hand to give it to your
fathers: and this land shall fall to you as your inheritance....
21 So shall you divide this land for yourselves according
to the tribes of Yisrael.
22 And it shall come to pass, that you shall divide it by lot
for an inheritance for yourselves, and to the foreigners
that sojourn among you, which SHALL BEGAT CHILDREN
among you: and they shall be to you AS ONE BORN IN THE
COUNTRY AMONG THE CHILDREN OF YISRAEL; they shall have
inheritance with you among the tribes of Yisrael.
23 And it shall come to pass, that in whatever tribe that
the ger (non-Hebrew convert to the faith) sojourns,
there shall you give him his inheritance,”
says the Master YHWH.
Verse 21 states who the land is for: the 12 tribes of Yisrael. Verse 23 makes it unmistakably clear that the non-Hebrew convert to the faith will be included in with whatever tribe he sojourns-- basically, absorbed into the commonwealth of Yisrael. Verse 22, says that the non-Hebrews WILL BEGAT CHILDREN! And then it compares the non-Hebrew children as being equivalent to the Hebrew children that are BORN. Obviously, both Hebrew and non-Hebrew FAMILIES will have children in the world to come. The only righteous way to have children is within the covenant of marriage. If the current (pre-millenial) earthly marriage covenants are ended by death or resurrection; then by default, the children born in the world to come MUST be born within the context of NEW marriage covenants!
The church’s myth that we cease to be sexual beings in the world to come was a real stumbling block to me in my teenage years. I’m glad it was only a myth.
So then how do we make sense of Luka’s account where Yehoshua’s reply is a bit more detailed?
Luka /Luke 20:34-35
34 And Yehoshua answering said to them, The children of
the this world marry, and are given in marriage:
35 But those who shall be accounted worthy to obtain the
world to come, and the resurrection from the dead, neither
marry, nor are given in marriage:
36 Neither can they die any more: for they are like the
heavenly angels; and are the children of Eloah, being
the children of the resurrection.
37 Now that the dead are raised, even Moshe showed at
the bush, when he called the Master YHWH the Eloah of
Avraham, and the Eloah of Yitzchak, and the Eloah of
38 For He is not the Eloah of the dead, but of the living:
for all live to Him.
The accounting process still takes place in the twinkling of an eye. During that accounting process there’s not time for marriages. The main event at that time is the accounting. If scripture verifies itself and is harmonious with itself (which it does and is), then v. 35 cannot be a negation of marriage. It can not contradict the Tanakh! “To obtain the world to come” refers to something that occurs after the resurrection which occurs after the accounting of those worthy. So three events in this order:
1. the accounting,
2. the resurrection,
3. the world to come.
In v 35 “Neither marry nor age given in marriage” --our marriage practices in this current world have a lot of rough spots. Our autonomy has often resulted in disaster. (even in this world, arraigned marriages have better longevity than non-arraigned marriages). So whether we choose our marriage partners in this fallen world or they are chosen for us by our parents in this fallen world, the matches for the most part are imperfect. Yehoshua in His wisdom knows best. So who we end up married to in the world to come has to be assigned by Him, but not by human arrangement or autonomy. The marriage in the world to come is not according to this world’s customs and traditions, but according to the Wisdom of Elohim.
17 Then Avraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and
said in his lev (heart), Shall a child be born to him that is a
hundred years old? And shall Sarah, that is ninety years
Avraham was making a remark that he himself was near being dead by the reasoning that he thought he could no longer reproduce. YHWH proved Avraham wrong not only with Yitzchak, but also by Avraham’s offspring through Qeturah and the concubines.
By scriptural standards, to really Live, to be really living, means to reproduce. And in the the world to come, reproduction has to be by marriage which is not of this world.
There are five fruits that result from the teaching of millennial marriage:
Believers are under less pressure to hurry up and get married to just any other believer.
Believers who are already in difficult marriages have something to look forward to in the world to come and thereby have more incentive to endure, because this earthly married life isn’t the be all and end all.
Since perfection is properly anticipated (for the millennial marriages assigned by Elohim) then the unrealistic expectation for perfect marriages in this world isn’t an added stressor.
Potential prospective converts are no longer discouraged by the error of thinking the Creator(s) are some sort of cosmic killjoy(s) who take sex and marriage out of the reward for faithful believers.
Young unmarried believers are no longer under the pressure to have sex at least once before they die based upon the erroneous fear of a sexless afterlife.*
*In Evangelical Christian circles, this is even a greater problem because so many are erroneously anticipating a pretribulational rapture. To be "raptured" means no sex-- ever, To a young person with pumping hormones, that sounds like hell. So what do they do? Fornicate with the presumption that they can ask for forgiveness later. The rates of fornication within evangelical circles bear this out.