Passed August 17th 2008
Although polygamy is not forbidden by the Torah, it does violate the
principle of Yesod HaBriah (the principle/foundation of creation)
because he who made man in the beginning, 'made them male and female'
(Gen. 1:27) 'Wherefore shall a man shall leave his father and his
mother, and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one
flesh' (Gen. 2:24) And now then, they are no more two but one flesh
Divorce also violates the principle of Yesod HaBriah because the
divorced man has more than one wife in his lifetime. What therefore
Elohim has joined together man cannot separate.
Moshe then commanded to give a bill of divorcement, and to put a wife away
if she was not pleasing in her husbands eyes" (Deut. 24:1, 3) on
account of the hardness of our hearts, allowed us to put away our
wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
every man that has put away, or shall put away his wife, except it be
for DAVAR Z'NOT, and takes another, commits adultery. And whoever
takes the divorced also
DAVAR Z'NOT is to be understood as "going astray" and may refer to the
wife who will not be subject to her husband's headship, as we read
"For, behold, they that go far from You shall perish; You do destroy
all them THAT GO ASTRAY from you. (Ps. 73:27)" and "For just as you do
not let the water go and abound, thus do not let the wicked wife go
and sin. And if she will not follow your direction, cut her off from
your flesh, and divorce her from your house." (Sira 25:25-26). And as
Paul writes:" Wives be subject to your husbands as to our Adon,
Because the husband is the head of the wife, Even as the Messiah is
head of the Assembly; and he is the life-giver of the body. But even
as the Assembly is subject to the Messiah, So also wives [should be
subject] to their husbands in everything." (Eph. 5:22-27 see also Gen.
3:16; Eph. 5:22-27; 1Cor. 11:3; 14:34-35; Col. 3:18; Titus 2:2-5;
Divorce is always a last resort. Even when there is a matter of
Z'NOT, though a man has the right to divorce, the preferred way is to
forgive and work out the problems. Divorce should be reserved for
situations from which repentance is not forthcoming or where the Z'NOT
is not likely to stop.